Couples often struggle with knowing when to seek relationship help. Just how “bad” does the situation need to be before exploring the marriage counseling option?
Do we try the self-help options first? Do we wait until things are at an impasse? Should we just suffer in silence? Is this normal?
In general, if you’re consistently feeling troubled about your relationship and problems just never seem to get resolved, it might be time to seek help from a professional therapist. And time is of the essence.
According to Dr. John Gottman of the Gottman Institute, a typical couple seeking marriage counseling spends an average of six years being unhappy before seeking help1https://www.gottman.com/blog/timing-is-everything-when-it-comes-to-marriage-counseling/. That’s a long time to endure a troubled relationship, and a lot of damage can be done in that time.
When it comes to seeking help, sooner rather than later seems to be the best choice. The longer a couple waits to seek help, the more challenging counseling and finding a successful resolution can be.
The time to act is before the damage becomes beyond repair. There is no shame in asking for help, and it just may be the most loving thing you’ll ever do for each other.